How Feelings Fuel Your Anger

Anger often stems from unmet “needs,” such as a desire for respect, admiration, or affirmation.

There must be a balance between legitimate needs and codependency. One major way we attempt to have these needs met is by trying to control others. The Bible gives the better alternative—freedom in choices and freedom from dependencies.

I recommend The Anger Workbook by Les Carter, an essential resource used in this series.

Part 3 – “Good and Angry” – Selected Scripture

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Two Life Lessons from Fishing Lures

Cold and blustery. Hardly anyone at Lake Ray Roberts. Five dollars for worms. Hooks snag in the underwater weeds. Worm guts under the fingernails.

Fish won’t bite. A hook pierces my thumb.

(Photo: by Túrelio, Creative Commons)

“Daddy, a stocked pond might be more fun,” I heard over my shoulder.

We fished with worms, hooks, and bobs while a nearby man cast a fishing lure with his rod. As we were leaving, this man caught a bass!

We caught nothing. Go figure. But his success got me to thinking.

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How to Ponder Scripture Every Time You Stop

Not long ago I stopped at a stop sign so intriguing that I doubled back to take its picture. Here it is.

Stop and Ponder Scripture

(Picture I took: Stop and Ponder Scripture)

What a great sign! After snapping the picture, I pulled to the side of the road and watched the next five cars that pulled up to the stop sign. Only one stopped. The rest rolled on through.

Later, I got to thinking about the intersection. “STOP—Ponder Scripture.” The command is there—and at a crossroads many stop at every day. Yet the surrounding neighborhood seems unaffected. They see the stop sign—but not the street sign.

I confess that, at times, I do too.

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Avoiding Spiritual Roadkill

I commute to work in the dark hours of the morning. Navigating the twisting country roads on my way to the highway, my headlights are the only illumination. But I always have to watch out for critters that get frightened by my lights. I see lots of roadkill. (Unlike some, I don’t pray over them.)

(Photo: www.flickr.com/photos/proimos, via Creative Commons)

More than once I have slowed to a stop for deer to scramble over adjacent fences, or a family of raccoons to cross single file, or numerous rabbits, skunks, squirrels, cats, and dogs. (I never slow down for snakes.) One morning, a buck with a multi-pointed rack just stood still and stared me down as I inched by. No movement. No fear. Amazing.

And then there are possums. Oh, dear.

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Anger and Mending Your Skinned Needs

Anger often stems from unmet “needs,” such as a desire for respect, admiration, or affirmation.

There must be a balance between legitimate needs and codependency. One major way we attempt to have these needs met is by trying to control others. The Bible gives the better alternative—freedom in choices and freedom from dependencies.

I recommend The Anger Workbook by Les Carter, an essential resource used in this series.

Part 2 – “Good and Angry” – Selected Scripture

Wayne Stiles Podcast

Google Maps and Knowing God’s Will for Your Life

Sometimes I wish Google Maps could give me traveling directions for life. You know, sometimes it might help in knowing God’s will for, say, the next thirty years?

God's will isn't on Google Maps.

Image by Google.

Wouldn’t it be nice if knowing God’s will for your life was that easy?

  • Imagine if we could zoom out to see the big picture.
  • Or zoom in to get the details.
  • Turn by turn, where we’re going, and how long it takes to get there.

For many of us, our problem isn’t our eternal destination—heaven. (Though, if you’re not sure about that, you’ll want to firm that up today.) I tried searching for “Heaven” in Google Maps, but it’s not there. But I located “Hell” in Michigan. (I guess it does freeze over after all.)

But God’s will isn’t necessarily a complete mystery.

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Income Taxes and Other Strange Stuff

Income Taxes provide that strange, brief season each year when I cringe at every dollar I’ve made and rejoice at every one I gave away.

One dollar bill

By Verwüstung, Public domain, from Wikimedia Commons

I have income taxes and tax deductions to thank for that perspective. (I think.)

Without this strange, inverted view, we can look at our tax obligation as blood on the ground. Wasted money. Gone. Adiós dinero.

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How to Avoid a Titanic Mistake

More than 100 years ago, the RMS Titanic hit an iceberg just before midnight, sending it to the bottom of the North Atlantic in the early hours of April 15, 1912.

How to Avoid a Titanic Mistake

(Photo: Titanic at the docks of Southampton, 1912. Public Domain.)

The re-release of the blockbuster movie in 3-D has resurfaced tremendous interest in the ill-fated vessel. With the exception of Noah’s Ark, the Titanic has intrigued more people than any other vessel in history.

Experts of its day hailed this “ship of dreams” as “practically unsinkable.” One seaman even went so far as to say: “God Himself couldn’t sink this ship!” Thomas Andrews, one of the Titanic’s designers, boasted: “The ship is as perfect as human brains can make.”

That’s why the morning after the sinking most people refused to believe the “unsinkable” had sunk. Even the Wall Street Journal printed an optimistic report:

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Why You Need a Substitute

When you don’t want sugar, but you do want sweet, what do you use? A substitute. When you don’t want the menu item as is, what do you request? A substitute.

Sugar Substitutes

(Photo: by Steve Snodgrass, Flickr: Sugar Dish. CC-BY-2.0)

 

Who does the school district call when the teacher can’t make it? Who does the coach put in when the player can’t take it? The pharmacist uses what, when the drug costs too much?

In every case, a substitute.

It’s a Way of Life

Substitution remains a way of life for us. When something is required, and we won’t or can’t meet the demand, a substitute is our first choice.

  • Some subs are good in dire straits, like an ambulance or a team’s pinch hitter.
  • Some subs take the heat when we wouldn’t or couldn’t, like an actor’s stand-in or stunt double.
  • Some fill a need where an absence has occurred, like a voter’s proxy or even a surrogate-dad.

In every case when something is required, and you and I can’t meet the demand, a substitute is our only option.

The fact is, every person has something required of him or her, but no one has met the demand.

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Self, Meet Your Anger

Anger is more than losing your temper.

It surfaces and is dealt with in many ways—most often, inappropriately! The Bible reveals the purpose for anger and the choices we have regarding its management—both for ourselves and toward others.

I recommend The Anger Workbookby Les Carter, an essential resource used in this series.

Part 1 – “Good and Angry” – Ephesians 4:25-32

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