Would you like to hold a grudge with God’s blessing? Wouldn’t it be great to know exactly how much of the same guff you had to take from someone until you no longer had to forgive?
The problem with forgiving is that the debt is real.
The debt is real. And in order to forgive, you must give even more than has already been taken. And this is hard. Very, very hard. But if we want God to forgive us, it’s essential.
The good news? Scripture shows us how.
Often we refuse to forgive because we feel that not forgiving is our payback to our offender. But in truth, unforgiveness gives more torture to us than it does to anyone else.
In other words, your depression will stay until you forgive.
But this truth doesn’t have to be a trap.
To be sure, Jesus offers eternal forgiveness to any who believe in Him.
However, although eternal forgiveness is secure, in order for God to be forgiving in our daily walk with Him, we need to be forgiving toward others. (It’s important to understand the difference.) That’s what Jesus meant when He said:
If you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions. (Matthew 6:14–15)
In short, if you as a Christian bear a grudge against someone, you are still saved, but you are out of fellowship with God.
Forgiving someone is essential for your walk with God.
But what if someone hurts us repeatedly? Isn’t there a point when we no longer need to be forgiving? Peter asked Jesus this very question (Matthew 18:21-22).
To what extent do we have to forgive?
Jesus said that we should forgive others to the same extent that God has forgiven us. Wayne Stiles
If you have received forgiveness of your sins, through faith in Jesus Christ, you have the obligation to give forgiveness to those who sin against you: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” (Ephesians 4:32)
Those words “just as” provide both your obligation and your motivation to forgive.
I have found 2 truths that have helped me with forgiveness:
Bigger things are going on than the dead-end street of your victimization. God is at work. Wayne Stiles
Yes, you’ve been betrayed. Yes, others have abused, backstabbed, and victimized you. Yes, you’ve been hurt—and it still hurts. And yes, you’ve also been forgiven through your faith in Jesus Christ.
Does that same grace urge us to forgive others?
Yes.
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